No. I’m talking more of emotion, intuition and belief.
Listening in itself is known to be a bit of an art.
Think about it for a sec. Do you believe you are a good listener?
To many the answer to that question is a resounding “yes”. It doesn’t take a lot to listen, does it?
Well, the truth of the matter is it actually takes a lot to be a good listener. It’s not as easy as it sounds.
There are different levels of listening: empathetic, attentive, selective, pretending, ignoring (beginning from the most effective listening to the least effective).
I get it. It’s hard to pay attention and pick up every little piece someone says. We are human. We are designed in such a way that holding our attention for long enough can be difficult. Even the smallest, unrelated thought can distract us.
So, next time you have a conversation remember the words of Dr Stephen Covey, author of “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.
“Seek first to understand then to be understood”
Active listening allows the person speaking to see the listener is attentive and engaged in the conversation. This involves comprehending, retaining, and responding to the person speaking.
Hearing and understanding is a skill many of us need to improve on.
Oops! I’ve diverged. See how easy it is to lose attention and focus?
Now, listen up!
You may have heard of, or becoming aware of, a little magical something called the Law of Attraction. I first heard about the Law of Attraction on the train journey home after a night out with friends. I met someone I didn’t realise I knew until he told me his name: an old school friend. I had already recognised subtle, sometimes random, connections and synchronicities in life. I had this strange feeling of everything really does happen for a reason. There are no coincidences.
Of course, I had to explore more!
So I want to introduce you to listening on a whole different level. That is, listening to the power of the universe.
Recently, I was on retreat in the beautiful grounds around Lendrick Lodge in Scotland. The first day of the retreat we were asked the question “what to you hope to get out of the retreat?”. I was there to relax; to switch off from the craziness of city life, of people buzzing around like busy bees to reach their dreams, to pay the bills, to provide for their families (and quite often not looking after oneself properly).
But throughout the weekend I recognised a recurring theme. It dawned on me I was there to learn more about loving kindness.
This was made easy being in the company of the coolest and kindest people to connect with.
But how did I come to this realisation?
Yes, I’m super sensitive to seeing connections and these connections began within 10 minutes of setting foot in our accomodation. To give you a bit of background I’m a certified Life Coach. I have followed Dr David R. Hamilton for some time now but at that point I had only listened to his Quantum Field Healing disc. I had also been practicing mindfulness regularly for some time.
I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw David R. Hamilton’s book “The 5 Effects of Kindness” not long after entering the house. What’s even more wowsers is how my Life Coach trainer, Ali Campbell, achknowledges David on the very first page. It’s clear I will one day attend one of his lectures and meet with this inspiring man!
Viktor Frankl was mentioned by both authors and just a few days later mentioned in a Les Brown audio – one thing’s for sure, I must check out Viktor Frankl!
On day 2 I randomly picked a compassionate card on loving kindness. On day 3 the meditation practice was on loving kindness. Somehow I was attracted to loving kindness and clearly, again, I had to explore more.
Listening to your soul; what’s right for your soul; pay attention to what direction does the universe seem to pull you.
Know that the universe will give you signs to let you know you are on the right track.
Pay attention, be actively curious and remain open to what comes your way.